We have this neighbor kid who comes over to play with the boys. He has to be the rudest child I have ever met. And since I’ll probably never speak more than a casual “Hello, How are you” to his mother, I feel safe to freely blog about the child.
Number one, I’ve never heard the words “Thank you” come over his lips. And I’ve given this kid plenty of drinks and lunches over the past two years to warrant a few thank yous.
The stuff that I absolutely can’t handle are the questions that come out of his mouth. Here are a few examples.
- He’s at the door, I tell him the boys can’t play. He asks, “Why?” Because I said so.
- It is time for the boys to come in for whatever reason & I tell him he needs to go home. He asks, “Why?” Because I said so.
- He comes to the door, I tell him the boys are out with their father. He asks, “Where are they?” They are out with their father. “But where?” Out.
- The boys are at his house, he calls me to ask if they can stay longer. No, they need to come home. “Why?” BECAUSE I SAID SO.
This is the one that just sent me over the edge. Hence, it became blogable.
- He comes to the door, I let him in and tell him the boys are upstairs. He asks, “Where were you yesterday?” That’s not your business, child.
Seriously, these aren’t simply phrased questions from an inquisitive child. These are accusatory questions out of an obnoxious 10 year old’s mouth. I refuse to answer any of his questions with straight answers. I do not have to explain myself to him, and I’m not going to. I’m going to be a grown-up and talk about him behind his back.
Why? Because I can.
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I can feel your pain…my students do that $hit! “WHY?” is their response to anything they get a ‘no’ about. It drives me mad! My response is usually something along the lines of, “You may be able to question your parents’ authority but you’re not doing that with me!” Probably not the nicest reply, but after 12+ years of it, I get soooooo pissed. “WHY?” My own son doesn’t even question me.
I hate rude kids.
That’s why mine never leave the house.
(kidding)
And if my kids are rude… it’s because they’re just “doing their own thing.”
That’s all.
There’s a part of me that feels sorry for the rude kids. Seems the parents who care about their kids’ character are the ones who teach their kids to speak with respect.
Most of us have rules because we love our kids – we’re not mean parents. The mean parents are the hands-off parents who let their kids raise themselves. Mean parents can’t be bothered.
It’s too bad your boys like him. If they didn’t like him the relationship could die a natural death and you would be spared. Maybe you could hold him up as an example of how not to act.
This brings back memories of some neighbor kids I had a few years back. Overall, great kids, but obnoxious as well. My ex and I befriended their single mother and would watch the two boys for her sometimes. Then summer came, and they knew I worked nights and spent my days around the house after waking up. They started coming over everyday to play videogames or watch movies. Finally, one day, they knocked and just walked right in like they owned the place. I put an end to that and probably scared the living bejeesuz out of them when my neck veins started pulsing…
While I too am sometime frustrated with adults who always ask why, I am somewhat concerned with a society whose view is that children should be seen and not heard. Or, “do as I say not as I do”. Another of my favorites is, “because I am the Adult”. I have to agree that children are not logical, they can’t really think and if they even start to we really show them who is boss. This way as adult they will perpetuate the good deeds. We also should not help coach children in polite manners, especially since this would help them in other parts of their lives.
Not sure if you expected agreement from everyone, but raising children is not only the parent’s responsibility. When my children’s friends are rude to me or my children I explain to them why it is that their actions are not appropriate. I also expect my children’s friend’s parents to do the same for my children. If I can’t get through to the child’s rudeness, we don’t play with them anymore, just like I tell my children, “if you have bad manners, people won’t invite you back to their house to play”.
every single one of you needs to lighten up.
with all due respect, if you’re going to talk about him behind his back, you’re as rude as he is, (and to be honest it’s kinda cowardly.)